Eve Rickert

Nonmonogamy can assume many shapes, none of which can claim to be a “safe” model of intimacy. Even the most casual of connections requires trust, and where there is trust, there is the potential for betrayal. Intimacy, exclusive or otherwise, can be exploratory or confined, collaborative or autonomous, but one thing it can never be is risk free. Yes, there is cheating in nonmonogamous relationships. There are other forms of betrayal, too: the cliquish injustices of in-group bullying, the violation of having personal information shared by a trusted partner, the humiliation of seeing someone who claimed to love you “trade up” for a partner with more social, sexual or plain old economic capital. Trust can be broken, and in turn break people, in a great number of ways. Nonomongamy and Betrayal not only unravels the varieties of betrayal that can occur in nonomongamy, but explores pathways to recognition and healing.

'Can you love more than one person?' A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss 'opening' relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question. The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both 'love' in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes. More Than Two can't promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths-from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy-possible within nonmonogamy. This long-awaited second edition bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin's insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise-or at least they can, if we work at it.

How do you deal with jealousy?". It's the first question many people ask when they hear about consensual nonmonogamy. Tools for dealing with jealous feelings are among the most basic resources in a well-equipped polyamorist's toolkit. Eve Rickert, author of the popular book More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, presents Nonmonogamy and Jealousy, a distilled guide to troubleshooting one of the most universal challenges in nonmonogamous relationships. In this book you will find pragmatic, compassionate ways to handle feelings of jealousy when they arise. You'll learn tools for identifying jealousy, strategies for decoding what it means, and hands-on advice for dealing with it before it undermines your relationships. If jealousy is a problem for you or someone you love, this book offers a path through the wilderness.

A practical guide to nurturing healthy, loving non-monogamous relationships using attachment theory. Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual non-monogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides non-monogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.

El libro More Than Two se public en el a o 2014 y pronto se convirti en un referente del poliamor, ya que se centra en exclusiva en este tipo de relaciones y ofrece multitud de casos pr cticos y consejos tiles para su buen funcionamiento. M s all de la pareja es la gu a m s reciente sobre poliamor tico. En sus 25 cap tulos, los autores van y vienen de la teor a a la pr ctica. Eve Rickert y Franklin Veaux han recogido a lo largo de 20 a os sus experiencias y las de cientos de miembros de la comunidad poliamorosa norteamericana. Este manual es una herramienta til tanto para las personas que est n empezando a pensar sus relaciones de forma poliamorosa como para quienes viven el poliamor desde hace tiempo y quieren encontrar ideas, reflexiones e historias de personas que han buscado relacionarse emocionalmente de forma tica y no mon gama durante a os. Los autores abordan los cuidados, las negociaciones, el veto, los derechos de las personas que tienen una relaci n con alguien que ya tiene pareja, las jerarqu as en las relaciones y si estas tienen sentido, la confianza, el empoderamiento, los celos, la honestidad y la comunicaci n en relaciones no mon gamas. Este libro no solo derriba los mitos de la monogamia, tambi n algunos de los mitos de las relaciones no mon gamas, Eve Rickert y Franklin Veaux nos invitan a cuestionar desde d nde decidimos querernos, escriben sobre el riesgo, el miedo y el crecimiento. No es posible abrirse al poliamor si no queremos habitar nuestra vulnerabilidad y no es posible amarnos sin asomarnos radicalmente a las necesidades y deseos de aquellas personas con las que caminamos.