Randi Kreger

From the author of the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells, comes the card deck--packed with new solution-focused skills you can use anytime, anywhere to respond to high-conflict behavior, reduce reactivity and conflict, and transform your relationships. Coping with high-conflict people can feel like you're "walking on eggshells" every day--especially if the high-conflict person is a loved one, friend, or coworker with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). The good news is that you can learn skills for successfully navigating these relationships, you can take control of your life, and you can change your relationships for the better. This card deck will help you get started immediately. The Stop Walking on Eggshells Card Deck offers powerful, portable, and in-the-moment skills to help you cope with the people in your life who display borderline and narcissistic traits. Using the card deck, you'll learn to set limits and communicate more effectively. You'll also find solution-focused tools based in mindfulness and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help you stay calm, grounded, and centered when responding to high-conflict behaviors. Each card offers skills or insights to help you: Better understand your loved one Communicate without arguing Free yourself from emotional blackmail Put a stop to gaslighting and manipulation Stay calm amidst the chaos You don't have to feel trapped in a vicious cycle of conflict anymore. With this go-to card deck, you'll gain the skills you need to draw boundaries with the high-conflict person in your life--and improve your own mental health and well-being as well

Millions of people suffer from borderline personality disorder (BPD), and countless more live with the effects of loving, caring about, or caring for someone with BPD. The best-selling book, Stop Walking on Eggshells, has helped nearly a million people survive and thrive in relationships with BPD sufferers. This workbook-written specifically for families-takes Eggshells to the next level by empowering readers with skills from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help them connect with empathy, minimize conflict, and take the space they need to thrive. Evidence-based dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills for surviving and thriving when a family member has BPD. If you have a family member who struggles with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you're probably familiar with the concept of walking on eggshells. Your loved one may experience intense emotions that are difficult to predict, leaving you feeling stressed, drained, and on edge. So, how can you support your loved one while also taking care of and protecting yourself? From a leading DBT expert and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells-which has helped nearly a million people successfully navigate their relationships with BPD sufferers-this workbook harnesses the power of DBT, the gold standard for treating BPD. You'll learn to better understand and empathize with your loved one's internal experiences and symptoms, and discover strategies to help you manage your own emotions and stay calm in stressful or upsetting situations. You'll also discover tools for improving communication, tips for boosting self-compassion, and skills for setting healthy boundaries with your loved one. If you're ready to stop walking on eggshells and start minimizing conflict, connecting with empathy, and making sure your own needs are met, this workbook can help you get started-step by step.

Heal the hidden wounds of growing up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), develop a healthy sense of self, and reclaim your full potential. Did you grow up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), or you suspect they did? Was your parent's behavior unpredictable or scary? Did it seem like they were angry one minute and happy the next? Were your basic needs ignored? If so, it wasn't your fault. Children raised by a parent with BPD are subjected to a number of unhealthy and damaging behaviors-from uncontrolled anger and abuse, to gaslighting, blame-shifting, lying, and more. As a result of these experiences, you may have developed feelings of guilt, insecurity, and depression that have lingered throughout your adult life. This compassionate guide offers a trauma-informed approach to help you recover from your toxic childhood and discover the person you were truly meant to be. You'll learn how to identify emotional and developmental wounds, and discover why interactions with your parents were so harmful to your sense of self. Then, you'll learn to create strong interpersonal boundaries and overcome feelings of guilt, anger, and low self-worth. Finally, through the act of emotional reprocessing, you'll reclaim those aspects of yourself that were lost or distorted by your trauma, so you can restart healthy growth processes and become the person you were meant to be. If you're carrying the hidden wounds of a toxic childhood, you're not alone-and you can heal. With this practical and powerful guide, you can finally understand what happened, build a healthy sense of self, and reach your full potential.

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones to stop relying on dangerous behaviors. This fully revised and updated third edition includes the very latest BPD research, extensive new information on narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), comorbidity and the effectiveness of schema therapy, and includes coping and communication skills readers can use to stabilize their relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in their life.

People in romantic relationships with narcissists or those suffering from borderline personality disorder (BPD) often feel manipulated, controlled, or even abused. Partners are frequently the focus of violent and irrational rages, and may find themselves "walking on eggshells" to avoid confrontation. BPD expert Randi Kreger-author of Stop Walking on Eggshells-presents essential skills to help partners establish boundaries, communicate effectively, and make the decision to stay or leave in a safe and healthy way. From the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells comes a lifeline for the romantic partners of those with BPD or narcissistic personality disorder. With this guide, you'll learn to set boundaries, defuse arguments, and do what's right for you. Do you often feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to in your relationship? Does your partner exhibit intense, irrational, or violent rage? Are you often the victim of gaslighting or extreme blame? If your partner has borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), it's important to remember that it is not your fault. Lured in by your partner's initial charm, you might have initially ignored or outright denied the red flags; however, the constant stream of criticism, blame, and gaslighting has left you questioning your own reality. So, how can you begin to set boundaries and make self-preservation a priority? BPD and NPD expert Randi Kreger provides targeted resources to help you build the confidence you need to navigate your relationship safely and effectively. Packed with in-depth information and proven-effective skills, this no-nonsense guide will help you evaluate your relationship, discover what you truly want and need, and gain the courage needed to make healthy decisions-and act on them. If you decide to stay with your partner, you'll be equipped with tools to improve the relationship; if you determine you want to leave and start a new life, this book will light your path to freedom. As much as it might feel like it, you are not stuck in your current relationship. There is a way forward, and no matter how you ultimately choose to proceed, you'll be guided wisely and safely toward a satisfying relationship-and the better, more peaceful life you deserve

Drawing on the same powerful approach outlined in the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells-which has sold more than 1.5 million copies worldwide-this essential guide offers skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder (BPD). With this book, readers will learn better ways to communicate and improve their relationship with their borderline child, and improve their own lives as parents and individuals.

Based on the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells, this essential guide offers powerful skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder (BPD)-without sacrificing their family or themselves. If you have a child with BPD, you are all-too-aware of the behavioral and emotional issues that are linked to this disorder-including rages, self-harm, sexual acting out, substance abuse, suicidal behaviors, physical and emotional attacks, and more. Traditional parenting strategies that work on other kids just don't work with a borderline child. But you shouldn't lose hope. The good news is that there are parenting strategies that do work. With this comprehensive resource, you will learn all about borderline personality disorder, how it shows up in children, adolescents, and your adult children, how to obtain proper treatment, and how to manage your child's condition at home. You'll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age, and, as a result, improve your own life as a parent and an individual. You'll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD. Most importantly, you'll learn how to maintain boundaries and validate your child while also meeting your own needs. Whether your child is 5 or 25, this book offers tools to help you and your family thrive.

Isn't it time you stopped walking on eggshells? Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to by someone close to you? Are you the focus of their intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel criticized and blamed all the time? If the answer is "yes," someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD)-a personality disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional volatility, and difficulties with interpersonal relationships. The good news is you can bring peace and stability back into your life. This newly revised and updated self-help classic will show you how, one confident step at a time. Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than one million people who have friends and family members diagnosed with BPD to understand this difficult disorder, communicate without apology, and set limits. This third edition includes new (and surprising) information on narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), men with BPD, children with BPD, and coping and communication skills you can use right now to stabilize your relationship with your loved one. This practical and compassionate guide will help you: √ Make sense of the chaos√ Stand up for yourself and assert your needs√ Defuse arguments and conflicts√ Protect yourself and others from violent behavior "My 'gold-standard' recommendation for learning how to live with, love, and care for people who struggle with BPD." -Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, coauthor of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones to stop relying on dangerous behaviors. This fully revised and updated third edition includes the very latest BPD research, extensive new information on narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), comorbidity and the effectiveness of schema therapy, and includes coping and communication skills readers can use to stabilize their relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in their life.

This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting is fully revised and updated, and includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: ·Predict what your spouse may do or say in court ·Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking ·Choose a lawyer who understands your case ·Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones to stop relying on dangerous behaviors. This fully revised and updated third edition includes the very latest BPD research, extensive new information on narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), comorbidity and the effectiveness of schema therapy, and includes coping and communication skills readers can use to stabilize their relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in their life. Isn't it time you stopped walking on eggshells? Learn how with this fully revised and updated third edition of a self-help classic-now with more than one million copies sold! Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are 'walking on eggshells' to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is 'yes,' someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD)-a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to: ·Make sense out of the chaos ·Stand up for yourself and assert your needs ·Defuse arguments and conflicts ·Protect yourself and others from violent behavior If you're ready to bring peace and stability back into your life, this time-tested guide will show you how, one confident step at a time.

In this compassionate guide, Jerold Kriesman-author of I Hate You, Don't Leave Me-offers a powerful set of tools to help you express yourself, set boundaries, and cultivate healthy communication with a loved one who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). If you have a loved one with BPD, you need real, proven-effective strategies to help you navigate the intense emotions and conflict that can arise in daily interactions and conversations. People with BPD often feel anger, pain, and hurt from a history of invalidation and disappointment, and their difficulty in regulating emotions can lead to moments of lashing out that can confuse and upset those around them. Written by a psychiatrist with more than 40 years of experience in treating BPD, I Hate You, Tell Me You Love Me offers a breakthrough, compassionate approach to communicating with a loved one who has BPD. The SET (support, empathy, truth) method outlined in this book is a powerful and simple tool that will allow you to honestly address your loved one's demands, assertions, and feelings while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. Each step builds on the last, helping you build up a consistent and reliable communication process. In this book, you'll find a review of BPD and the common communication problems inherent in the disorder. You'll learn how SET can address these issues. And finally, you'll find detailed examples of specific scenarios that can arise when talking to a loved one with BPD. Remember-validation isn't the same as agreement. You can help your loved one feel validated while still maintaining your own boundaries. This essential guide will show you how.

Borderline-Verhalten ist für die Betroffenen aufreibend und oft zerstörerisch, aber auch für Angehörige, Partner und Freunde, die häufig von den prekären Verhaltensweisen der Erkrankten dominiert werden. Wie also verhält man sich als Angehöriger ?richtig?? Auf diese Frage geben die Autoren Antwort, indem sie die täglichen Verhaltens- und Beziehungsfallen aufzeigen, die sich im Leben mit Borderlinern auftun. Sie geben wertvolle Anregungen und Tipps, um selbst psychisch stabil zu bleiben und hilfreich zu sein für den erkrankten Partner. ? Was bleibt noch übrig, wenn unser Umgang mit dem anderen ein ewiger Eiertanz ist? Oberflächlicher Smalltalk, angespanntes Schweigen, jede Menge Stress. Was früher ein leichtfüßiger Tanz der Zuneigung und Nähe war, verwandelt sich in einen Maskenball.?

""Randi Kreger has done it again! With her new book, she continues to make the dynamics of borderline personality disorder (BPD) readily accessible to those of us who love, live with, and treat people who suffer from this complex condition."" ""Randi Kreger's communication techniques, grounded in the latest research, provide family members with the essential ability to regain a genuine, meaningful relationship with their loved one with borderline personality disorder (BPD)."" ""If you love someone who makes you feel trapped, controlled, or manipulated, this wonderful book can set you free."" ""Be prepared to make some positive changes in your relationships."" ""Randi Kreger should be commended for her untiring efforts to help people impacted by this disorder.""

Dieses Buch ist eine hervorragende Ergänzung zum Ratgeber ? Schluss mit dem Eiertanz?. Der Schwerpunkt liegt hier auf dem besseren Verstehen der eigenen Situation als Angehöriger eines Borderline-Betroffenen. Es gibt Anregungen, die Kommunikation und das eigene Verhalten klarer und fruchtbarer zu gestalten. Das Arbeitsbuch kann eigenständig gelesen werden, die vorherige Lektüre von ? Schluss mit dem Eiertanz? ist aber sicher hilfreich. Dieses Arbeitsbuch bietet mit Hilfe von kleinen Tests und Übungen konkrete Anleitungen, das eigene Verhalten zu erkennen und Alternativen zu eingefahrenen Mustern z. B. im Gesprächsverhalten, zu entwickeln. Aktive Mitarbeit ist ausdrücklich erwünscht und notwendig.

The symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) include severe mood shifts, unfounded accusations and wildly inappropriate displays of anger, a range of self-destructive behaviors, and frantic efforts to avoid abandonment. For the friends and families of people with BPD, The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook supports and reinforces the ideas in its partner book Stop Walking on Eggshells. The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook can be used by itself, or as an accompaniment to the first book. A practical guide to successfully navigating life with someone with BPD, it iss chock full of worksheets, checklists, and exercises to help them apply what they have learned to their own relationship. It includes a form to help to fill in when looking for a clinician, a list of phrases to use, and a glossary of BPD-related terms. The book is easy to read and right to the point.