John gottman

Praktiline käsiraamat "Hasti toimiva abielu 7 pohimotet" aitab paaridel keskenduda teineteisele ja poorata tahelepanu vaikestele igapaevastele hetkedele, mis kokku liidetuna moodustavadki iga suhte tuuma ja hinge. Uhte raamatusse kokku kogutud praktilised kusimustikud ja harjutused, kaitumisjuhised ja oskused aitavad jouda harmoonilise pikaajalise paarisuhteni ja seda ka hoida. Ameerika psuhholoog ja kultuslik suhteekspert John Gottman (s 1942) lahenes abielu uurimisele revolutsiooniliselt. Ta analuusis abielupaaride harjumusi ja loi teaduslikule uurimistoole tuginedes meetodi, et muuta just neid kaitumismustreid, mis paarisuhteid sagedamini lohuvad. Dr Gottmani valja tootatud hasti toimiva abielu seitse pohimotet on otsekohesed, sugava mojuga ning opetavad partneritele uusi ja sageli jahmatavaid strateegiaid abielu edukaks toimimiseks. "Hasti toimiva abielu 7 pohimotet" on taiuslik juhend koigile, kes soovivad, et nende suhe saavutaks oma korgeima potentsiaali. "Praktiline juhend emotsionaalselt intelligentseks ja kauakestvaks abieluks."- Daniel Goleman, raamatu "Emotsionaalne intelligentsus" autor "Gottmanil on selle teemaga tegelemiseks parim kvalifikatsioon: teadlase vaimsus ja romantiku hing." - Newsweek

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER - LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES Conflict is the top reason couples seek help--but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world's leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates. "An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again."--Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can't control and emotions we don't anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight--all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary. Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together. Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

In its original volume, first published in 1993, John Gottman details years of research involving questionnaires and observations of married couples in pursuit of the determinants of both marital happiness and divorce. Grounded in science and informed by clinical practice, it offers psychological professional insight and awareness of what healthy relationships need. With a new preface by the Gottman Institute Clinical Director, Dr Don Cole, and Research Director, Dr Carrie Cole, this Classic Edition of the landmark text, What Predicts Divorce?, reveals to a new generation, the original context of Gottman’s work, how he has further developed his research and thinking, and the ongoing relevance of this volume in the context of future challenges for the field. Providing a roadmap that gives shape to the science yet to be done, this Classic Edition of What Predicts Divorce? is essential reading for all family and clinical psychologists, as well as therapists working with couples in relationship counselling.

In its original volume, first published in 1993, John Gottman details years of research involving questionnaires and observations of married couples in pursuit of the determinants of both marital happiness and divorce. Grounded in science and informed by clinical practice, it offers psychological professional insight and awareness of what healthy relationships need. With a new preface by the Gottman Institute Clinical Director, Dr Don Cole, and Research Director, Dr Carrie Cole, this Classic Edition of the landmark text, What Predicts Divorce?, reveals to a new generation, the original context of Gottman’s work, how he has further developed his research and thinking, and the ongoing relevance of this volume in the context of future challenges for the field. Providing a roadmap that gives shape to the science yet to be done, this Classic Edition of What Predicts Divorce? is essential reading for all family and clinical psychologists, as well as therapists working with couples in relationship counselling.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER with over a million copies sold! The revolutionary guide to show couples how to create an emotionally intelligent relationship - and keep it on trackThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make-and break-a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER "This book feels so hopeful because it's direct, it's really honest, and it's so actionable." --Brene Brown From New York Times-bestselling authors Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, a simple yet powerful plan to transform your relationship in seven days What makes love last? Why does one couple stay together forever, while another falls apart? And most importantly, is there a scientific formula for love? Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman are the world's leading relationship scientists. For the past forty years, they have been studying love. They've gathered data on over three thousand couples, looking at everything from their body language to the way they converse to their stress hormone levels. Their goal: to identify the building blocks of love. The Love Prescription distills their life's work into a bite-size, seven-day action plan with easy, immediately actionable steps. There will be no grand gestures and no big, hard conversations. There's nothing to buy or do to prepare. Anyone can do this, from any starting point. The seven-day prescription will lead you through these exercises: Day 1: Make ContactDay 2: Ask a Big QuestionDay 3: Say Thank YouDay 4: Give a Real Compliment Day 5: Ask for What You NeedDay 6: Reach Out and Touch Day 7: Declare a Date Night There is a formula for a good relationship, and this book will show you how a few small changes can fundamentally transform your relationship for the better.

Emotion Coaching (EC) is a universal communication strategy which supports children and young people to self-regulate and manage their stress responses. Originally noticed as an effective way parents communicated with their children around challenging behaviours, Emotion Coaching has been shown to be highly successful in educational settings too. This is why the authors pioneered the research and application of Emotion Coaching into UK (primary and secondary) schools and community settings. The book includes straightforward descriptions and practical tips, with signposting to resources, case studies and vignettes to illustrate its practical application in educational settings. It supports adults to promote empathetic responses to challenging behaviours and situations, helping children and young people to understand their emotions and learn to manage them and their behavior in the longer-term.

Happily Ever After is not by chance - it’s By Choice. John and Julie Gottman are cofounders of the Gottman Institute, bestselling authors, and award-winning researchers. Together, they have a deep understanding of what makes relationships work. Now, they bring that lifetime’s worth of knowledge, research, and wisdom to bear in Eight Dates, a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. Eight Dates is written for any serious couple, and its dates are structured around the concepts of trust, dealing with conflict, sex and intimacy, having fun, work and money, children, and more. There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master. Because to make love truly last, each of you have to be involved and active.

"Una gu a eminentemente pr ctica para un matrimonio emocionalmente inteligente y duradero" - Daniel Goleman, autor de Emotional Intelligence Los siete principios para hacer que el matrimonio funcione ha revolucionado la forma en que entendemos, reparamos y fortalecemos los matrimonios. El estudio sin precedentes de John Gottman sobre las parejas durante un per odo de a os le ha permitido observar los h bitos que pueden hacer, y romper, un matrimonio. Aqu est la culminaci n de ese trabajo: los siete principios que gu an a las parejas en el camino hacia una relaci n armoniosa y duradera. Estos principios, sencillos pero profundos, ense an a los socios nuevos enfoques para resolver conflictos, crear nuevos puntos en com n y lograr mayores niveles de intimidad. Gottman ofrece estrategias y recursos para ayudar a las parejas a colaborar de manera m s eficaz para resolver cualquier problema, ya sea que se trate de cuestiones relacionadas con el sexo, el dinero, la religi n, el trabajo, la familia o cualquier otra cosa. Repleta de nuevos ejercicios y las ltimas investigaciones del estimado Instituto Gottman, esta edici n revisada de Los siete principios para hacer que el matrimonio funcione es la gu a definitiva para cualquiera que quiera que su relaci n alcance su m ximo potencial.. ENGLISH DESCRIPTION With more than a million copies sold worldwide, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make--and break--a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

A great "philosopher" once said "trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color 9." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And arguably there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the bestselling 7 principles of Making Marriage Work. His new book, written with wife Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist, and Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gleaned from the Gottman's popular couple's workshops and the "love lab" at the University of Washington. It's written primarily for men because new research suggeststhat it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER - Over a million copies sold "An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent--and long-lasting--marriage."--Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make--and break--a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

A world-renowned relationship expert shares his research about love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond. In this insightful book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous "Love Lab" Where does love come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade? And how can we keep it alive? Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.

John Gottmans banbrytande forskning vad gäller parrelationer kan jämföras med föregångarna Masters och Johnsons på sexualitetens område. I ett forskningslaboratorium (skämtsamt kallat ”the love lab”) har Gottman under många års tid studerat hur gifta par relaterar till varandra. Vad säger de? Med vilket tonfall samtalar de? Vilket kroppsspråk har de? Med 90-procentig säkerhet har han på ett tidigt stadium kunnat fastställa vilka par som kommer att skilja sig. John Gottmans forskning visar att det finns sju avgörande faktorer – sju gyllene regler – som kännetecknar en lycklig relation. Samtliga regler utgår ifrån vardagens vitala betydelse. De par som visar varandra omtanke och uppskattning dagligdags lägger grunden för en trygghet och stabilitet som är helt nödvändig för att mer allvarliga konflikter ska kunna tacklas. Ett exempel: Rogivande samtal vid dagens slut skapar förtrolighet och lättar på spänningar. Grundregeln vid denna tidpunkt på dygnet är att ge varandra känslomässig uppbackning och lufta alla typer av problem som ligger utanför själva parrelationen. Översättning Per Rundgren

Drawing on separate scientific studies, two relationship experts introduce the knowledge and skills couples need to make the transition to parenthood, using practical advice and real-life examples to help couples avoid relationship meltdown, maintain a healthy sex life, preserve emotional intimacy, prevent postpartum depression, and create a nurturing environment. Reprint. 50,000 first printing.

In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools--scientifically based and empirically verified--that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication. In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict--with more than 90 percent accuracy--whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. What emerged from the Gottmans' collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that's based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems--extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy--and examine what they've done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track. Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans' work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that's headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.

Adapted from Dr. John Gottman’s Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, this book helps adults identify their parenting and care giving style. It explains the five important steps in “emotion coaching” children to ensure that children are guided to healthy emotional growth. Gottman argues that kids who can accept and share their emotions form stronger friendships, achieve more in school, recover from emotional crises more quickly, and are physically healthier. Beautiful illustrations of parents and children help convey the vital message of this guide.