John M. Gottman

Én foreldreaktivitet er alfa og omega for barns utvikling. Det viser studiene til verdens ledende familie- og parforsker John Gottman. Studiene er støttet av omfattende forskning i flere land i Europa, Asia og også i Australia. Sluttresultatet gir klare svar: Denne ene foreldreaktiviteten har avgjørende betydning for hvor barnet ender i livet -- emosjonelt, helsemessig, psykologisk, akademisk og profesjonelt. Her får du vite hva du skal gjøre. Det gir store gevinster for barnet. Hjerteforeldre presenterer dr. John Gottmans oppsiktsvekkende forskning om foreldre og barn. Den viser at det du gjør som mamma eller pappa i de kritiske øyeblikkene er med på å bestemme hvor barna dine ender opp sosialt, helsemessig, emosjonelt og karrieremessig. Men hvilke øyeblikk er det som virkelig teller? Hva er denne foreldreaktiviteten? Basert på professor Gottmans epokegjørende forskning gjennom mer enn 45 år, og ellers nyere forskning innen utviklingspsykologi, får du vite hva som skal til for å bygge barnas selvtillit og styrke og støtte dem på alle livets områder. Denne foreldreaktiviteten gir barnet store gevinster. Metoden er enkel å lære, og er tatt i bruk av foreldre, lærere og omsorgspersoner. Må-ha boken for foreldre og lærere! DR. JOHN M. GOTTMAN (født 1942) er professor emeritus i psykologi, og kjent som verdens fremste samlivsforsker. Hans banebrytende forskning på par og familier over 45 år har ført til over 200 publiserte vitenskapelige artikler og over 40 bøker. Han er en prisbelønt psykolog og kåret til en av USAs mest innflytelsesrike terapeuter. Sammen med sin kone, Julie Schwartz Gottman, driver han Gottman-instituttet i USA og er grunnlegger av Affective Software Inc. I 2021 mottok ekteparet den svært anerkjente og høythengende prisen for Psykotherapy Networker Lifetime Achievement Award.

Det finnes én foreldreaktivitet som har enorm betydning for hvor ditt barn ender opp i livet - yrkesmessig, akademisk, sosialt og emosjonelt. I denne boken forteller professorene John Gottman og Frode Thuen hva denne aktiviteten går ut på. Metodene i boken er basert på John Gottmans forskning, slik den blant annet ble presentert i boken Hjerteforeldre. Forskningen viser at barn som lærer å håndtere vanskelige følelser tidlig, får det enklere senere i livet. Mange foreldre er usikre på hva de skal gjøre når barn gir uttrykk for emosjoner som sorg, sinne eller redsel. Denne boken gir dem et verktøy til å gjenkjenne og forstå slike vanskelige følelser, og vitenskapelig underbygde råd og strategier som viser hvordan man hjelper barn med å håndtere dem. Hva er det jeg føler er en nyttig veileder for foreldre, omsorgspersoner, lærere og andre som vil hjelpe barn. Boken er systematisk oppbygd og veileder leseren steg for steg. Én seksjon handler om spedbarns- og småbarnsperioden, mens et nyskrevet kapittel av professor Frode Thuen gir råd om emosjonstrening av eldre barn og ungdommer.

Professor John Gottman er verdens ledende forsker på samliv og familieliv. Denne boken presenterer en ny side ved hans revolusjonerende forskning. Den kan få enorm betydning og stor nytteverdi for hvordan vi forholder oss til andre. Det startet med et spørsmål: Hva har alle sunne, gode relas-joner til felles? I mer enn 40 år har Gottman jaktet på svaret. Først visste ingen hva de skulle se etter. Den store oppdagels-en kom da forskerteamet studerte de avgjørende mikrose-kundene med følelsesmessig kontakt mellom mennesker. Denne boken viser nemlig at det er én aktivitet som har spesielt stor betydning for hvordan relasjonene våre utvikler seg. På en lettfattelig og fascinerende måte tar boken deg med inn i en hittil skjult verden. Vi får se hva mennesker gjør for å innby til emosjonell kontakt - og hva som skjer når vi besvarer disse innbydelsene fra våre nære. Disse avgjørende øyeblikkene kan få enorme konsekvenser - for parforhold og dating, mellom voksne søsken, på jobben og med venner, og fremfor alt i forhold til barn og tenåringer.

World renowned for their work on divorce prediction, here John M. and Julie Schwartz Gottman examine a couples therapy classic: Ludwig von Bertalanffy's 1968 collection General System Theory. This book transformed therapy, but until now there hasn't been a researched-based demonstration that these ideas work. Using the latest research tools, the Gottmans complete the promise of this early work.

Utallige lesere verden over forteller at de rette grepene fra denne boken har forbedret, beskyttet eller reddet forholdet. Verdens ledende parforskere, med over 40 års forskning på over 3000 par, vet hva det er som får parforholdet til å fungere. Hemmelighetene er samlet i denne boken. Her får du de praktiske strategiene og grepene som gir varige, tilfredsstillende og sunne parforhold. De praktiske rådene er enkle å sette ut i livet. Noen timer investert i denne guiden kan gjøre en stor positiv forskjell i forholdet. Dette er boken til deg selv, til partneren og en gave til alle par som ønsker å forholdet og familien til å fungere. Grepene har vist seg gyldige for alle par - både nyforelskede, samboere og gifte, på tvers av alder, kultur og kjønn. Forskningen viser at par som lærer prinsippene i denne boken, oftere bygger lykkelige og langvarige forhold. Med enkle grep kan du få kjærligheten til å blomstre.

Here, two of the world’s leading couple therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on in the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging. This book gathers together what they have learned over the years of their practice and touches on issues at the core of couples work. No-one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance and strategies offered in this book.

One of the nation's top relationship experts outlines his revolutionary new five-step program for repairing damaged relationships between spouses, lovers, co-workers, and family members. By the author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Reprint. 40,000 first printing.

For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship. Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times. Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient. This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.

Hailed as a landmark in the development of experimental methods when it appeared in 1975, Design and Analysis of Time-Series Experiments is available again after several years of being out of print. Gene V Glass, Victor L. Willson and John M. Gottman have carried forward the design and analysis of perhaps the most powerful and useful quasi-experimental design identified by their mentors in the classic Campbell & Stanley text Experimental and Quasi-experimental Design for Research (1966). In an era when governments seek to resolve questions of experimental validity by fiat and the label 'Scientifically Based Research' is appropriated for only certain privileged experimental designs, nothing could be more appropriate than to bring back the classic text that challenges doctrinaire opinions of proper causal analysis. Glass, Willson & Gottman introduce and illustrate an armamentarium of interrupted time-series experimental designs that offer some of the most powerful tools for discovering and validating causal relationships in social and education policy analysis. Drawing on the ground-breaking statistical analytic tools of Box & Jenkins, the authors extend the comprehensive autoregressive-integrated-moving-averages (ARIMA) model to accommodate significance testing and estimation of the effects of interventions into real world time-series. Designs and full statistical analyses are richly illustrated with actual examples from education, behavioral psychology, and sociology.

Psychologist and top marriage guru John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last - now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen and maintain your long-term relationship. This ground-breaking book will enable you to see where your strengths and weaknesses lie, what specific actions you can take to improve your marriage and how to avoid the damaging patterns that can lead to divorce. It includes: * Practical exercises and techniques that will allow you to understand and make the most of your relationship * Ways to recognise and overcome the attitudes that doom a marriage * Questionnaires that will help you evaluate your relationship * Case studies and anecdotes from real life throughout

Divorce rates are at an all-time high. But without a theoretical understanding of the processes related to marital stability and dissolution, it is difficult to design and evaluate new marriage interventions. The Mathematics of Marriage provides the foundation for a scientific theory of marital relations. The book does not rely on metaphors, but develops and applies a mathematical model using difference equations. The work is the fulfillment of the goal to build a mathematical framework for the general system theory of families first suggested by Ludwig Von Bertalanffy in the 1960s. The book also presents a complete introduction to the mathematics involved in theory building and testing, and details the development of experiments and models. In one "marriage experiment," for example, the authors explored the effects of lowering or raising a couple's heart rates. Armed with their mathematical model, they were able to do real experiments to determine which processes were affected by their interventions. Applying ideas such as phase space, null clines, influence functions, inertia, and uninfluenced and influenced stable steady states (attractors), the authors show how other researchers can use the methods to weigh their own data with positive and negative weights. While the focus is on modeling marriage, the techniques can be applied to other types of psychological phenomena as well.

Gottman and Jacobson's key discovery is that there are two different types of batterer. The men in one group, who are referred to as Cobras, become inwardly calm during heated arguments, their heart rate lowering. They are sadistic, antisocial, emotionally detached from their wives and outwardly furious from the first moment of conflict. Pit Bulls, in contrast, are attached to their wives to the point of paranoia. Their heart rate increases during arguments and their anger builds up gradually. The characterists of the two types have not been described before and are vital to understanding the dynamic of violent behaviour in marriages, because they react very differently in similar situations. Powerful and moving case studies appear throughout, following couples over a period of years. Emerging from Hell explores the effectiveness of treating batterers. Gottman and Jacobson advocate, in addition to theapy, a custodial sentencing - otherwise batterers feel that society is sanctioning their behaviour. Hardly any other study has gone on so long, enabling an accurate assessment of treatment. Ultimatley the battered women are the heroines of the book, frequently coming across as resourceful and brave under horrific circumstances. The forces driving them to leave their partners and possible ways of helping them are discussed in detail.

Mothers and infants exchanging gleeful vocalizations, married couples discussing their problems, children playing, birds courting and monkeys fighting have this in common: their interactions with others unfold over time. Almost anyone who is interested can observe and describe such phenomena. But usually scientists demand more. They want observations that are replicable and amenable to scientific analysis, while still faithful to the dynamics of the phenomena studied. This book provides a straightforward introduction to scientific methods for observing social behavior. Because of the importance of time in the dynamics of social interaction, sequential approaches to analyzing and understanding social behavior are emphasized. An advanced knowledge of statistical analysis is not required. Instead, the authors present fundamental concepts and offer practical advice. 30 line diagrams, 13 tables

Mothers and infants exchanging gleeful vocalizations, married couples discussing their problems, children playing, birds courting and monkeys fighting have this in common: their interactions with others unfold over time. Almost anyone who is interested can observe and describe such phenomena. But usually scientists demand more. They want observations that are replicable and amenable to scientific analysis, while still faithful to the dynamics of the phenomena studied. This book provides a straightforward introduction to scientific methods for observing social behavior. Because of the importance of time in the dynamics of social interaction, sequential approaches to analyzing and understanding social behavior are emphasized. An advanced knowledge of statistical analysis is not required. Instead, the authors present fundamental concepts and offer practical advice.

When this book was first published in 1978, it was only recently that researchers had begun to focus on children's peer relationships and the impact of these relationships on their development. The contributors to this volume view friendship as an important context for the study of a variety of cognitive and affective processes - from the perspectives of a wide range of disciplines. The volume poses an array of fascinating theoretical questions, and offers varied methodological tools for answering them. Some contributors present and review applied research addressed to conceptualizing and ameliorating peer relationship problems, whilst others reflect applied or policy-orientated concerns in chapters on racial integration and the integration of mentally retarded children into regular classrooms. A chapter on the scientific, political and social history of the interest in children's friendships and two summary chapters add to the usefulness of the book for students.